"Don't Try This At Home"
I went on this blog and saw an interesting post about “Natural Consequences”. I left my five cents there about my problem I have with my 15-year-old boy. From a gifted child he became so unmotivated that is failing now. I am trying everything to help him and nothing is working. Instead, it’s making matters worse. My husband is believes in letting him fail as a natural consequences but I don’t think that this would be the right approach.
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Sliloh said,
April 3, 2010 @ 9:23 pm04
I believe in natural consequences to a point. Kids will learn from them. If we are talking dangerous though, no way.
Anita
forparentsofteens said,
April 8, 2010 @ 9:23 pm04
You are right, Anita. Never allow dangerous situation to accur. We need to keep children safe at all times.
Natural consequences are OK to a point. For example: If my child keeps leaving homework at home and after two times me taking it to her school I refuse to do it the third time after I gave specific instractions the night before to pack school bag with all homework.
Well, the third time was time to apply natural consequences and not to bring the homework to school again. If the child get a bad grade as a result of not having homework; so be it. This will be insentive for her to remember.
womenhealyourselves said,
April 21, 2010 @ 9:23 pm04
Boy this is a tough one. Mine are still 9 and 10 so I try to instill in them the idea of consequences for their actions but I admit I give lots and lots of warnings. At least my boys are not real adventurous so no real danger as of yet. Things may be different when they are 15 though. Good luck with this.
Susan